Wednesday, 4 September 2013


From the moment our first sibling is born, competition comes into play.  Whether we are the youngest child, the oldest or somewhere in the middle, we begin to vie for top-spot in our parent's eyes.  We remember it from our own childhoods, battle with it in our offspring and see it in  the lives of many characters from the old testament - look at Cain and Abel for example, even on a bad day my children's sibling rivalry doesn't come close to that pair!

Throughout our school days, if we're not competing for class captain or the lead role in the end of term play, we are looking to be the most popular child in the playground.  As we move into adulthood, we are encouraged to compete for that promotion at work or to out-bid others in the quest for our perfect home.  We are bombarded and almost conditioned into believing that life is one long competition.

Competition quickly becomes second nature to us and in certain circumstances, a little bit of competition can be fun and even healthy.  But what happens when competition takes over? Jealousy, envy, bitterness and pride.  That's what happens.  All of these traits are ugly and ones that I recognise in myself at times.  If I think about it, at the very root of this ugliness, is the competition that I've inadvertently created with the other person.

Earlier in the year, I took part in a weekly bible study on James, written by Beth Moore.  On many occasions throughout this course, I was reminded that as Christians we are called to stand out; that God requires us to be different from the person the world would have us become.  It can be so easy to slip into being of the world, if we're not looking for the signs - the little hint of jealousy we've allowed to creep in, the snippets of gossip that we let whisper from our mouths.

So how do we put a stop to the unhealthy side of competition? 

Beth Moore encouraged us to consider the term 'yielding', dictionary definition as follows:

  1. (of a substance or object) Giving way under pressure; not hard or rigid.
  2. (of a person) Complying with the requests or desires of others: "a gentle, yielding person".
pliable - compliant - pliant - supple - flexible

If truth be told, I look at this list of adjectives and synonyms and immediately think 'weak' - gentle, compliant, giving way under pressure?  My natural instincts are the opposite - strong, purposeful and full of determination.  Although yielding seems like the 'nice' thing to do, is this really what God wants of me?

This is a question I have mulled over a lot this summer and it's a notion that I have not been able to drop. I have started to see glimmers of what 'yielding' might look like in my life. 
  • accepting that someone else might have a point, even if I'm pretty sure I'm right
  • choosing not to pick an argument with my husband
  • 'letting go' of something that perhaps doesn't need to be tackled with my daughter right now
  • allowing someone else to take the reins at work even if I think I could do it better
  • being pleased for my friend when she receives that promotion/new sofa/new car/new home.... perhaps  even the one I was hoping for
  • putting my husband first
  • agreeing to carry out a task or take a back-seat role, even if it means no one may ever know the part I played
  • putting myself out for someone else, possibly to the detriment of my 'to do' list.
And I'm sure this is just the beginning....

If you're still unsure of what 'yielding' looks like, have a read of Matthew 27 v 50: 'And Jesus cried out again with a loud voice, and yielded up his spirit' ESV. 

Jesus - the ultimate example of yielding.  In the New Living Translation, it says that Jesus 'released' his spirit and I think that this is a great way to express what He did on the cross. He didn't give up, not in the sense that we see it anyway, He chose to give over His life to God and carry out His destiny. That's what 'yielding' is about and that's what we should be doing too.  

What might yielding look like in your life?


  1. Very interesting to think about - in a similar way I have always struggled with the concept of being a 'servant' and of Jesus as the Servant King. He is both: he is the supreme authority AND he is below you, lifting you up and providing for your every need. And how can we have both his confident authority and his humble servitude?

    As for yielding - I think all your examples are just perfect. Taking a back seat, not looking for the glory or the credit. I guess it starts with realising you are not yielding to the other person, but to God. Surrendering yourself to God is not being weak, just being sensible.

  2. Thank you, Suzanne. This is SO very helpful, and a lesson I am repeatedly learning... loving this blog by the way; keep the posts coming!!xx

  3. This is quite a deep subject, something to ponder/chew on like you've done this summer so i can't answer immediately. But I would say that for me right now, that yielding would be many of those things on your list (my husband says I can be like a dog with a bone when I'm annoyed', ouch!). But also a biggie, which is yielding my time and efforts to where God leads which may mean sacrificing public praise and recognition for doing something bog standard or serving out of the limelight. Not being seen to be an expert at something, which most of my peers are now who've kept their jobs. I don't actually know where that is beyond my family at the moment. Im in the process of working that out. But its a real biggie in our society. Being recognised for being a something= being or worth. Thanks for this S. Good stuff for chewing on.

  4. You really tap into the bit that I want to pretend isn't there...

    Yielding is such a hard thing to do..especially as a feisty woman in 2013. It really irks me and that is something I need to confront, perhaps. Great post, even if it does bring on my catholic guilt....

  5. This is a great post Suzanne, really challenging. I know I am massively guilty of some of the things on your list, particularly feeling indignant if I feel like I haven't had recognition for something I've helped with. Thank you for sharing this, I think I might need to make a list of areas I could yield in, and challenge myself to see them through xx